Do Less and Be More

What 'Do Less Be More' means and how to live it.

If you're like me, you have curious parts that like asking 'why?', analytic parts that ask "what for?", and growth oriented parts that are relentlessly asking "what else is possible?" These traits of curiosity, analysis, and a desire to evolve, are the beautiful aspects inspiring this reflection piece - an invitation to pause and peruse the simple profundity of the Do Less Be More slogan.

Do Less Be More are four words that go beyond the motto of my business: they represent my personal evolution, ethos, and purpose. Infused throughout my client work, Do Less Be More is a the therapeutic coaching methodology that integrates my studies, life lessons, and values.

Words have power, and humans are meaning making machines. We do this meaning-making, mostly unconsciously, so that we can feel a sense of order and safety. When we slow down and pay attention to the words we choose, and get curious about why we use them, we become more intentional in how we engage with the world, while deepening our self knowing.

I cannot count the number of times I have laughed out loud in-joy of the perfection of 'Do Less Be More' in my own personal stumblings; the times I catch myself trying to control external circumstances or outcomes, or when it's lovingly pointed out to me that I am working harder than anyone else and maybe I could just - play for awhile, or when clients mirror back to me through their own conundrums about the importance of connection over perfection. Do Less Be More is a constant, subtle reminder of the importance of balance and harmony and the inner work that feels purposeful for me to practice in every moment - and if it inspires others, giving them permission to forgo hustle and perfection for presence and acceptance, then all the better.

The Evolution of Do Less Be More

It began as a keen awareness of the cause of my burnout and depression: externally DOING relentlessly, hustling hard to climb the corporate ladder of success and perfection, rarely BEING in the present moment to genuinely invite in joy, purpose, or authentic connection.

As I studied the law of polarity, explored Divine Union (Feminine and Masculine energies.. check out my co-authored poetry book exploring the erotic shadow play of this!) and Tantra, and trained in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Do Less Be More represented how women, in their fight for equality and independence, were effectively distancing themselves from their true nature and power. In their misguided (but necessary) fight for equality, they were becoming more sick, more disconnected, more unsatisfied, more…masculine. DLBM then meant do less masculine energy and Be More feminine energy - to correct the hyper-masculination amongst corporate women. The intention was to help the pendulum swing back from either extreme, creating more inner harmony and healthy balance of both energies within the individual, but also within hetero-normative relationshipsb, especially for women.

Through my training in Internal Family Systems (IFS - Parts Work), the lens of DLBM turned inward: it was about Being with all the parts of me that impact my life experience. The better I got at feeing, knowing, and witnessing the various aspects of myself, the more peaceful, joyful, and fulfilled I became. I stopped DOing so much, and focused more on who I was BEing - for ME. The less I did, the more I became - personally and professionally.

Do Less Be More in Business

For BUSINESSES, Do Less Be More gets to the heart of the business - because Hustle Culture (doing) is the death of businesses (hello burnout crisis!). As I often tell my entrepreneurial clients: The Heart Is The Boss. Therefor, the potential impact a business will make in this world is directly correlated to the well being of the humans involved. The leadership and team coaching I offer is holistically focused so that each contributing member can fulfill their potential in their roles: the business thrives because everyone is (surprisingly) doing less! Are you a leader ready to Do Less and Be More in business? Book A Consult with me here.

Do Less Be More For Couples

For COUPLES, Do Less Be More is about connecting in presence with what is here and now, for and between the partner(s) of the relationship. It represents expanding capacity to BE with, so that each partner can respond with courage and compassion, as opposed to reacting in an attempt to avoid the uncomfortable. It represents the choice a couple makes to take responsibility for how they are being in their role as a partner, focusing on all elements of intimacy beyond the practical doings. And it's about becoming fiercely intimate through truth and empowered ownership to transform the patterns the couple is trapped in. Couples ready to do this work can book a consult here.

Do Less Be More For Individuals

For INDIVIDUALS, Do Less Be More represents taking the ultimate journey from your head to your heart. From ego to intuition. From outer reactivity to inner creativity. It is a rejection of the patriarchy and all the broken systems of the westernized world. It is about embodying purpose to be in alignment; to be in freedom. It is the commitment to surrendering to the process and reconnecting to Oneness. If you're ready to stop hustling and become your purpose, let's chat.

How To Do Less and Be More

The 'how' begins with the why - so connecting with your Purpose is essential. Be Your Purpose is a 16-week intensive in a supportive group-learning environment that will help you discover and connect with your life's purpose.

Once you're clear on your purpose, then you can extract your vision and current mission. Mission is the 'how' to BE. This mission often begins with intentional re-alignment and involves honestly assessing where in your life you are being complacent - where you are not living according to your values. The intent is to bridge the gap between where you are now to the Future You that is living on purpose.

Our external circumstances are used to inform our inner work. Anywhere in life that feels stuck, frustrating, or unsatisfying is a clue as to where we have inner-being work to engage with. To Do Less and Be More, you integrate past wounds and unresolved traumas in the here and now, while learning to respond (be) instead of react (do). You prioritize harmonizing all relationships - including the relationships with your inner parts as you commit to aligning with your highest self - the one that is being on purpose with intent, peace, and freedom.

Curious about where you are being complacent in your life - and how you can begin to Do Less and Be More today? Take this masterclass: Your Purpose Is Calling: Stop The Complaceny and Start Living Your Potential.