For Couples
Offering a brave space for compassionate and fierce truth so that couples can heal and grow, together.
MY APPROACH
My approach to couples therapy and coaching is rooted in conscious connection, courageous intimacy, and self responsibility. I believe in an individual's wholeness: YOU are your primary partner, and your partner is secondary support for your system.
I teach each human in the relationship the skills of conscious relating: how to listen with curiosity, set boundaries with love, and speak truth without blame.
From this place of empowered Wise-Adult Self Leadership, your capacity for compassionate loving expands, relational intimacy deepens, and real lasting change is possible.
AREAS OF FOCUS
Conscious Relating
Relational Life transitions (Parenthood, Marriage, Opening Up A Relationship, etc)
Holistic Intimacy (emotional, physical, spiritual, sexual, intellectual)
Trust and A Felt Sense of Safety
Courageous Communication
Conflict Resolution and Stuck Relational Patterns
Boundaries
Shame and Grandiosity
Pre-Marital Counseling
Parenting
Alternate Relationships (non-monogamy, polyamory, open, etc.)
Divine Union; Feminine-Masculine polarity
Eros, Sexuality, and Sexual Intimacy
Kink and Shadow Play
MODALITIES
Relational Life Therapy (RLT - Terry Real)
RLT helps couples break out of blame, power struggles, and disconnection by taking radical responsibility for their own behavior and learning how to show up with honesty, compassion, and skill. Through this direct and transformative process, couples rebuild trust, deepen intimacy, and co-create a relationship rooted in truth, respect, and love.
Intimacy From The Inside Out (IFIO)
IFIO is a relationship therapy that facilitates IFS in a relational setting using the intimate relationship as a vehicle for growth and healing of the individual as well as the couple. This approach facilitates courageous conversation and fierce intimacy, leans on intrapsychic work and interpersonal exploration, and enables healing of complex reactive patterns.
While I rely heavily on the practices of RLT and IFS (IFIO), my approach is also influenced by:
Esther Perel
Dan Siegel
Polyvagal Theory
Attachment Theory
Gottman’s Method for Couples
Masculine-Feminine Polarity; Divine Union
All love is unconditional -
it cannot be any other way.
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For Love is the opposite of fear
and fear exists only when
there is an absence of knowing.
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So - first seek to understand.
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Remember with your compassionate heart.
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And when your knowing becomes
whole-hearted and complete
fear will dissipate
leaving you to abide in
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Unconditional Love.
