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The Real Reason You Are Stuck (and how to get unstuck!)

You’re likely reading this now because, despite everything you’ve tried, despite doing the work, and having the best of intentions, you still feel stuck. As a big dreamer with a big heart and a big desire to do better than yesterday, you’ve listened to the podcasts, you’ve bought the courses and read the books, and maybe even hired a therapist or mentor or coach, but you still cant shake this stuck energy.

In the beginning stages of working with new clients, they will often describe their feelings of stuckness as:

“I'm in a holding pattern..."

“I've tried everything, I am at a complete loss..”, or

“I feel trapped”, or

"I feel frustrated because I am getting in my own way and I know better”.

Regardless of their willingness to try, no matter what they do they can’t seem to get out of the cycle they are in, the cycle of stuckness that is holding them back.

Can you relate?

If so, then what I am about to share with you will provide you the clarity you need so that you can finally get unstuck.

I’m going to share with you 1 major hidden reason for your stuckness that is often overlooked, and offer you ways to overcome this so that you can escape the stuck energy and start embodying your most inspired way of living.

The Most Overlooked Reason For Being Stuck

The big, almost secret, reason for your stuckness that hardly anyone talks about is the words you use. And more specifically, there are three phrases that create the illusion of stuckness and they are:

“I don’t know…”,

“Yah but…”, and

“I know that already.”

When we say these phrases, we project a limiting energy out to the Universe that cuts us off from our greater potential, giving us permission to comfortably and safely stay right where we are. When we use these phrases: “I don’t know…”, “Yah but…”, and

“I know that already...” we are cutting ourselves off from all potential growth, and limitless possibility.

These phrases are often used without conscious thought - without us truly realizing what we are saying, like a knee-jerk reaction.

So let’s dive into each of these three phrases so you can see what I mean and hopefully make an internal shift that will relieve you from that energy of stuckness that you’re in now.

I Don't Know...

The first phrase is “I don’t know…”.

I want you to pay attention to what happens when you say the words “I don’t know” out loud right now. Try saying something like:

“I don't know what to do about my relationship”, or

“I don't know what to eat for dinner”, or

“I don’t know how I’m going to pay my rent”.

What happens inside of you when you say these words? Do you notice how your brain freezes? Just shuts down, and halts thinking altogether?

This is because “I don’t know” is a trigger for your brain to take the easy way out.

Your brain is lazy and it prefers going into autopilot mode over having to build new neural pathways to solve a problem.

Saying “I don’t know” is a defense mechanism against taking action. Tied to the action that you could take if you DID know, are likely some uncomfortable feelings that you are subconsciously avoiding. And, whether we are aware of it or not, we will do anything we can to avoid feeling uncomfortable feelings.