How Bartering Helps Increase Energy and Connection

Updated: Aug 23, 2021

We can’t do it all, and quite frankly, we aren’t meant to. Some of us high achievers and perfectionists certainly try to, but sooner or later we understand that the outcome of doing so leads to poor quality output, and a whole lotta’ stress.

As our world shifts towards Unity, a key to our collective growth will be to honor our strengths and utilize the talents of others.

We need to cease efforting through things that we are not passionate about or are not especially skilled at. Just because it has to get done, doesn’t mean you need to be the one to do it. It’s important to acknowledge the things we don't do well, the things that are taxing and distracting to us, and celebrate letting someone else (whose strength and talent aligns with those things) be responsible for them.

A wise rule of thumb in the recruitment world is to “hire smarter than you”. Doing so saves money, time, and energy; it aligns specific problems with expertise, thereby making room for growth and expansion. The beauty of this rule is that it can be extended to our personal lives as well. There’s no reason we should be doing it all, especially when we have friends, family, neighbors, and an expansive online community of experts as reliable resources.

We are so caught up trying to tackle everything ourselves because society has normalized the behavior. This unrealistic need for stubborn independence makes it near impossible to simply Be: to live our lives fully in the present moment, joyfully and gratefully. It’s time to halt this unsustainable, high-pressured, capitalistic, segregated way of being.

Let’s make more room for the things in life that bring us joy, energize us, and raise our vibration. So ask yourself:

  • What tasks in my daily, weekly, or monthly routines do I wish I didn’t have to do?

  • What am I procrastinating over and why?

  • Am I really the best person for this chore, activity, or project that needs to be completed?

  • If I could give up my undesirable responsibilities, what could I make room for?

  • How would I feel spending more time doing the things that energize me, rather than the things I experience resistance towards?

Reflecting on these questions will illuminate the tasks in your life that you deem necessary, even though tackling them burdens or depletes you. Do you appreciate a clean and organized home but struggle to stay on top of it? Do you love the idea of meal prep and home-cooked meals, but most nights throw out rotten, unused produce, order from a food delivery service, and eat way too late?

You can certainly hire help if you have the cash, but most of us aren’t in a position to do so.

The solution?

Establish a bartering collective - a community among friends and family whereby services are exchanged, utilizing each others’ strengths and passions for the benefit of all.

You undoubtedly have skills to offer others and you can exchange these for help with the tasks you’d rather not do. Just imagine:

  • Getting your kids’ haircut in exchange for a nutritious home-cooked meal or two.

  • Swapping a yoga session for an oil change. Hemming for lawn care. Home renos for pet-sitting.

  • Tackling your bookkeeping in exchange for a couple hours of babysitting for the single-mom friend you haven't seen in longer than you care to admit.

  • Coming home to a clean house in exchange for running errands for your friend who doesn't drive.

  • Repairing your dishwasher in exchange for cleaning up a virus on your neighbor’s laptop.